Dear IWSGers, instead of answering this month’s question, I’d like to showcase fellow Canadian Jemi Fraser’s new book Dancing with Dementia. Things are fine in my world. Yes, I am sad, but I’m also grateful for many blessings. Today Jemi’s book seems more important than anything I have to say. Though I promised I’d share my Bali adventure, I think that’s best left for another day.
Jemi has some interesting questions at the bottom of her post. Check them out. And don’t forget to visit all our co-hosts this month. They’re the reason no one’s IWSG post is left unvisited. Thanks, everyone!
It’s a pleasure to be participating in author Jemi Fraser’s DANCING WITH DEMENTIA, Recognizing and Coping with the Early Stages of Dementia Blog Tour through MC Book Tours today.
The author is offering a tour-wide international giveaway of an Amazon Gift Card. More information on the giveaway is listed below.
Recognizing and Coping with the Early Stages of Dementia
by Jemi Fraser
◊ Genre: Nonfiction, Memoir
◊ Publisher: Just Jemi Books
◊ ISBN-13: 978-1-9991258-1-3
Dementia and Alzheimer’s touch the lives of millions around the world, but so much is still unknown.
As first-generation Canadians, we didn’t recognize the early warning signs. We didn’t know the differences between regular aging and the early stages of dementia. We’ve made mistakes but we’ve learned a lot.
DANCING WITH DEMENTIA will help you:
•Identify those early warning signs
•Use visuals to improve communication
•Choose your words wisely
•Redirect and reassure
•Stay calm and cope with your own emotions
•Consider nursing home options
•Improve caregiver self-care
We’ve learned to dance the early steps of the disease with our love and laughter intact. If you are looking for help recognizing early signposts along with practical ways to cope with early Dementia and Alzheimer’s, this book is for you.
Add DANCING WITH DEMENTIA to your Goodreads shelf
For those who aren’t familiar with the author, here’s a bit of background on her.
Jemi Fraser writes both fiction and nonfiction. Her nonfiction work focuses on the ways that dementia has impacted her family. Her fiction work varies from contemporary romance to suspense and flash fiction. Years as a teacher have taught Jemi that life is short and that happy endings are a must.
Jemi lives in Northern Ontario, Canada where snow is always a topic of conversation and the autumn leaves make everything better.
For more on Jemi and her writing, visit her following sites:
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I’m normally a fiction writer. My novels are currently focused on romance & romantic suspense. I write flash fiction in all kinds of genres. Writing a nonfiction book, and a highly personal one at that, was a big change, not only in genre but in writing style.
When writing a fiction story, I start with a flash of emotion and build a character & scene for that. The scene floats around in my subconscious for a while. I’m learning to plot, so I try that, and then I write. From the first scene to the last.
Dancing With Dementia has an overall linear trajectory, but within the book it’s not always a linear story. And I didn’t write it in a linear fashion. In fact, I didn’t begin writing it intentionally at all.
When we were living the incidents in the Bowels of Hell: Sleep Deprivation Makes Everything Funny section of the book, I started writing down snippets of stories.
At first, I wrote things down for a couple of reasons:
- I wanted to remember
- I couldn’t believe what had happened
- We wanted a timeline and running record of some of mom’s behaviours and conversations
- I was tired and drained enough to need an external memory for what worked to help Mom and what just annoyed her
I had no original intention of writing a book. I was just trying to make sense of our world and find ways to help our mom.
For many long months, we kept living as best we could and I kept recording.
One of our family members suggested I compile the snippets into a book, a guide that might help other families.
So, I started organizing the stories, looking for themes and connections. Eventually the organization of the book became clear. A section for every area of life that was a challenge for Mom, all building toward a nursing home placement.
In its final version, the book can be read a couple of ways. Of course, you can read it start to finish. That’s probably best.
But, helping someone through the early stages of dementia takes a lot of time and energy from your life. If you’re in that stage, you might not have enough connected time to read the book in a straight shot.
Instead, it might be better to dip into an area that might help you at the time. Dip in again on another day in another section. Driving, finances, phones, living alone, outside agencies, talking about nursing homes,…
Dip into the tips section at the back, especially for those wondering if dementia is creeping in or looking for ideas on how to redirect.
I’m not sure I could ever write in a nonlinear fashion for fiction, but it was a method that worked extremely well for this book.
How about you? If you’re a writer, do you write in a linear fashion or are you able to jump from scene to scene and then weave them together later? Is there a difference in how you write fiction and nonfiction? If you’re not a writer, do you have another way of making sense of your world other than writing it down? Do you prefer stories told in a linear fashion?
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